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Ever since I was a little girl, I always had high expectations for the future.
I would always look forward to the next stage in my life, hoping and praying that I could reach it faster. When I was in elementary school, I used to play pretend “high school”—where I would walk around my house with giant books, pretend my book shelf was a hallway locker, and ring an imaginary bell to go from class to class.
When I was in high school, I was already “so over it”. I just wanted to get out of there and go on to college. And sure enough, once I got to college, I just wanted to graduate and get an awesome job, have kids, maybe adopt a few, live in a cute house, bake and do crafts till kingdom come—oh, and find a husband on the way.
That’s when my next new aspiration was birthed: to become Super Mom.
You know, the one who has four and a half kids, two dogs, a bird and a cat, manages to keep her entire family on a ultra-healthy diet, bakes bread from scratch for her local homeless shelter in her “spare-time”, wakes up early to go jogging or an occasional yoga session in the park, while looking like a super model? Yeah, her. That’s who I aspired to become one day. And sooner, rather than later, of course.
But as always, you wake up from your dream and come back down to reality. Harsh, kick-you-to-the-curb reality.
After I graduated from college, I began a little process that would not only change my ideas about parenting, but would completely alter the way I pursued my future all together.
I began to nanny for a family with one 4-year-old daughter.
And when I first started, I thought to myself, “Easy. One kid, a few hours a day, I was made for this moment.” Okay, maybe not as dramatic, but I was basically pretty confident in my ability and experience, or surprising lack thereof, to help raise this little being.
As it is probably quite obvious at this point, my expectations were shattered and I am here to share a couple of my favorite failures and in the semi-ridiculous realities that I so quickly discovered after nannying for less than 6 months.
1. Baking with a four-year-old is not glamorous. At all. I thought it would be a wonderful activity to do together. How hard could it be to get some sprinkles and bake cookies?! I thought I was already being realistic by buying Pilsbury pre-made dough so we could just cut and decorate. Not so simple…Long story short, Little Girl stood on a chair, ate the sprinkles, and occasionally pressed her hand in the dough.
2. Crayons have legs. They somehow always make their way into my purse. I know I didn’t put them in there, so there’s only one explanation—they jumped in on their own.
3. There’s no room for real TV shows. What’s all the hype about Breaking Bad? What’s Game of Thrones? Dr. Who?! Sad to say, I feel totally uncool when my friends make references to TV shows I know nothing about. I probably know more about Strawberry Shortcake, Daniel the Tiger, and Pengu, than I do about my own friends…
4. Duck, Duck, Goose is NOT a fun game. It’s probably only bearable during the first five minutes. After a while, I realize how completely out of shape I am. Especially, when I am the only one in the circle that can actually get up and run. I swear, that teddy bear told me about a million times, he wanted to be tagged “Goose!” for once!
5. You need thick skin. “Kids say the darnedest things” is not just a cute quote—it’s a rude awakening. And if you can’t handle their sweet little criticisms, then tough. I’ve been told that I have “tiny eyes”, “stinky feet”, “bad dry skin”, and the list goes on and on! If you don’t have confidence, your self-esteem could be easily shattered, because kids are blunt. And I learned that when they knock you down, you have to get back on your feet fast enough to teach them better manners.
All in all, I got a little glimpse of what it is like to live with and raise a child. A friend once told me that nothing prepared her more for raising kids than nannying—and I whole-heartedly believe that! Granted, this was only a tiny taste of what it could be like, I now have a fresh perspective. These may all seem like random moments, but they helped shape my new mindset. I began to really appreciate where I was in life right now. I am definitely not ready for this kind of lifestyle 24/7.
I still do hope to be a mom someday, and hopefully still an amazing one at that, but I think I've learned an even more important lesson over the course of these past few months and that is: to fully appreciate the stage of life I am in now. I have even more respect for mothers all over the world now, new moms, seasoned moms, super moms, lost and confused moms. I understand that I am exactly where I am in my life at this very moment for a reason. Everything I experience is an investment and a lesson for my future.
So props, to all the amazing mommies out there! Hope to join your ranks some day!
-Written by Melissa Lim at A Little Bundle headquarters with lots of love