Twins are double everything. Double the hugs, double the fun, and double the work. We took the time to interview Stephanie, who is new to being a mom of multiples to see exactly how she does it.
Did you ever think that you would be a mom of twins?
“No, I never thought I would be the mom of twins. I was actually really shocked when we found out. It was only four weeks into the pregnancy when we went to the emergency room thinking I was having a miscarriage only to discover that not only were we not losing one baby, but actually having two. It was the best news I have ever received…especially in the emergency room.”
How do you like it so far?
“I love it. There is double the love, snuggles, kisses, cuteness…also double the dirty diapers, but it’s totally worth it.”
In what other ways (besides there being two of everything) is it different than just having one child?
“Schedules become very important. We have to plan in great detail things that used to be split second decisions, like a trip to the store. We used to just jump up and go, but not now. We have to pack bags, look at when we fed the twins last and when they need to eat again. It’s a forty-five minute get-ready session. It’s also different in that you don’t just stare and admire how adorable your new bundle of joy is, you look at both of them. The way they are similar and the way they are different. You watch how they communicate with each other and realize you’re the one left out of the conversation! It can be a little overwhelming at times when it’s just me and the twins, and they both stat crying. It isn’t easy to console two crying babies, but I’m learning. You also become a minor celebrity by association. Everywhere we go people stop us to admire them.”
In what ways have you had to change your daily routine? Has that been difficult?
“Well, my daily routine thus far has been feeding, changing diapers and bathing babies. I have started working from home and I have to schedule work time when the babies sleep and that can sometimes be difficult if one decides they want to stay up and chit-chat. The most important thing has been to keep them on the same schedule so that they both sleep at the same time so during that time I can do other things. I haven’t gone back to work at the office yet. I’m sure that when I do the routine will really change and things will be much more difficult.”
You have three other children, which must get hectic! Is it always bustling in your house now, with the two new additions?
“It is pretty busy around here all the time, but my three older children are really very helpful and they adore the twins. Our three oldest have all started basketball season and that is crazy since they practice at different places and two practice at the same time, but we manage it. I am very lucky that I have a lot of help with family and friends, that makes a huge difference.”
I can only imagine the demand that Emma and Jaxon put on you. What are you going to do when you have to go back to work?
“I am going to be very depressed when I have to go back to work, I definitely don’t want to leave them, but I am lucky that my mother-in-law lives with us and will take care of them when I do have to go back. My older sister also lives close and always wants to come babysit so again, I have a lot of help which makes a huge difference.”
Have you met any other moms of multiples? Can you give any advice to them from your experiences?
“It seems as though when I found out I was pregnant with twins I was always meeting either another mom with twins or someone who was a twin. The best advice I can give would be this:
1. Keep them on the same schedule. It’s the only way you will be able to have any time to feed and bathe yourself.
2. When shopping for them, buy things with multiple purposes. For example, I bought swings that have vibrating chairs that come off, instead of having a swing and a bouncy chair, otherwise there would be no room to walk around the house.
3. Accept all the help that is offered to you. There is no way that you can do it all on your own and the people offering help really want to, so take advantage.
4. And the biggest piece of advice – be calm. The babies feed off your energy; if you’re calm they will be calm too, even if they’re crying. It won’t be a panicky ‘I haven’t taken a breath yet’ cry.”
Interviewed and Written by Christin Smith.